How Do You Know When They Are The ONE?? ~10 Ways to Know He or She is the ONE

03. Nov, 2011

Deciding on the ONE person that is right for you is not an easy task. Many might ask how did you know he or she was the one for you. Well, do you know? Here are a few of my favorite ways to help you know they are the ONE for you!

1. They make you want to be a better person~ I have this as the number ONE because for me it is the most important & I remember feeling this way when I first met my husband. I wanted to be better, do more for others & just be a good person. This is what I was looking for in my life & I was lucky enough to find it. When you realize that you are enjoying the simple things in life & trying to find more ways to help out others you just might be on the right track.

2. You can’t stop smiling~ Have you ever felt this. I love it. So all you do is think about them & you have this cheesy grin that just won’t go away. The only question is does he or she feel the same way?? Let me assure you, if he or she doesn’t you don’t want them. You deserve to be loved.

3. You get along well~ Relationships should start in a positive manner. Keeping each other in mind & trying to make the other person happy rather than thinking about yourself all the time is a sure way to stay getting along. Relationships are supposed to be selfless. Let’s be honest it takes a lot of work to have a relationship but when you are both working together then the outcome is fabulous.

4. You have similar interests & enjoy doing things together~ Chances are you won’t have every interest the same but you want to make sure that there are many things & interests that you have together. As your relationship grows hopefully your interests together will grow as well. Make sure you are taking your time for your own interests & allow your significant other to do the same. It is healthy to have individual interests & enjoy your time apart as well as together.

5. You admire him or her~ Thinking the best of the ones you love is important. For me admiration comes mostly for how they treat others. How they show respect to others & themselves & most importantly how you think of him or her. Your opinion of your significant other is important.

6. You have the similar goals & ambitions~ This doesn’t mean that you both have to be in the same line of work but more be on the same page as far as what your personal & family goals are. The idea here is to discuss your goals. Employment, children, where to live, religion, the in-laws, holidays etc… Make sure you know where each other stands. Whether you are on the same page or not make sure you can live with the others desires, interests etc… & be willing to make compromises.

7. You are always thinking of ways to make him or her happy~ Putting the one you love first & what makes them happy is part of making a great relationship. I know I said it earlier but it really is about compromising with each other. If one of you is always giving in the relationship isn’t quite balanced. Both of you should be equally trying to make the other happy, with in reason of course.

8. You see yourself growing old together~ Do you picture yourself on the porch swing talking about your memories. Holding hands on your walk & just enjoying each others company after the kids are grown & on their own? There will come a time when it will be just to two of you again. Staying in love through out your marriage is important and your focus should be on each other.

9. You can’t imagine your life without him or her~ Have you thought about what your life would be like without them? How does that make you feel? If you get anxious, sad & just can’t bear to think of it then maybe that is your sign.

10. He or she makes it easy to love them & you are excited about your future together~ Relationships aren’t easy & there will be times when your significant other will make it difficult to love them. Not on purpose just because life happens. The beginning of relationships are typically easy but more importantly are you both willing to stay when the going gets tough? Getting divorced has become the norm. It takes real effort & desire to make each other happy & find the best in each other. Do you get excited about your future & dream together? Are you both feeling the same way? If one of you is not quite there don’t push maybe it just isn’t right or maybe you just need more time. If you are both excited to be together & create one future then YAY!!!

We hope these 10 little ideas give you something to think about & help you decide if he or she is the one. If you question any of them maybe you haven’t given the relationship enough time. We hope everyone can find happiness & find their ONE TRUE LOVE!!

Here is a fun video that I found that might be helpful too. Check it out.

Your Future Husband? How to decide he’s the one