TIPS FOR STRESS FREE WEDDING PLANNING
Having participated in thousands of weddings over the years there is one thing we have noticed. Weddings are a lot of fun, for everyone except maybe the bride. Far too often we have seen brides so stressed about the wedding planning, the wedding day, the reception and the honeymoon that they forget to enjoy the journey. Here are some ideas we have found that will help when it comes to stress free wedding planning.
Delegate + ask for help: You don’t have to do everything! Even if it feels like you’re taking on this whole thing alone, it’s way more productive (and more pleasant) if you enlist friends, family, and your fiance for their help.
Have an outlet: Have a go-to stress relieving activity? Use it — especially when you’re planning your wedding. It’s nice to punctuate your wedding planning time wtih
Talk to friends about something other than your wedding: When your best friends have become your bridesmaids for the next year, it’s hard not to talk to them about anything but your wedding. But take the time and effort to stop thinking about your wedding and talk to your friends about something else — it’ll take your wedding stress of your mind, and your friends will appreciate it too!
Limit your Pinterest time: A recent survey by the Today Show has shown women are reporting increasing levels of stress. Why? They’re comparing themselves to the “perfect” images and lifestyles that Pinterest is so good at portraying. I mean, it is hard not to want the perfect Pinterest wedding — but you gotta remember it’s your wedding, which is better than anything on Pinterest.
Schedule a NO WEDDING night: This is perhaps the most important thing to stop others from stressing you out. One night a week, neither of you are allowed to mention the word wedding nor anything wedding related. Turn off your phones, shut down the computers and emails. This can be a date night, or just a relaxing at home together night to remind you why you’re going through all this craziness in the first place!
Continue to be romantic: Everyday is a chance to show your partner how much they mean to you. Little post it notes, a ready breakfast in the morning or a thoughtful dinner, a text to say an unexpected I love you, are all ways to keep your romance thriving through the stress.
Accept the stress and anxiety, but don’t feed into it: It’s going to happen—things will go wrong, people will make rude comments, the people you expected to come through for your special day will not rise to the occasion. Allow yourself to feel stressed out. These are normal feelings and it’s fine to feel them. But don’t feed into them. Don’t give the feelings or negative people more power than they deserve. Instead, accept them as part of the process, but acknowledge your control over your feelings. You’re more powerful than stress. Remind each other of this. Or even better, this is a good opportunity to began a couples yoga or meditation practice together.
Get Your Finances In Order: Don’t wait until after you tie the knot to share with your new spouse that you have $15,000 in credit card debt and $40,000 in student loans. Make sure you are both on the same page when it comes to your finances. Both what you want to spend on the wedding and more importantly how you will manage a budget and bank accounts after the wedding.
Know what YOU want before everyone you know starts telling you what you want: Before you run off to tell the parents and friends and post to facebook you are engaged, take some time for you and your partner to get used to the idea. Discuss the kind of wedding you want. When you start sharing the news, without having a clue about the experience you want to create, you are more vulnerable to pressure and influence from others.
Everyone has an agenda for your wedding: People tend to see your wedding as a chance to fulfill their own needs. They tend to act out what it’s all about for them – not the two of you! Set clear boundaries, and also protect yourselves emotionally from the sometimes-negative vibes from well-meaning friends and relatives.
Hire Experts: There is no better way then having people who know what they are doing take care of your wedding needs. DYI may save money (but then again may cost you a lot more than you think) but believe us when we tell you, having Aunt Lucy cutting everyone’s heads off in your pictures will cause more stress and anxiety. Experts know how to keep you calm, they know how to do their job so you can simply focus on the fun.
Your happiness in life DOES NOT hinge on the wedding alone: Our culture places a tremendous emphasis on having a great wedding and not enough focus on having an awesome marriage. It’s okay to be temporarily obsessed for the perfect wedding – we all go there at some point – but you have to keep your eye on what’s truly important. Step back and realize, the most important part of the day is not the day itself, but that you walked down that aisle and into the arms of the one you love, the one you look forward to building your life with. However remember; It’s just one day! You’re going to love your wedding day, but it’s really just the first day of your marriage — which is even more important.
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