Top 10 Mistakes/Regrets Brides Make
We scoured the internet reading numerous blogs on regrets brides have after their wedding, we have also ourselves surveyed hundreds of brides over the years as well. It is pretty interesting what the majority of those regrets were. The funny things about the regrets we discovered were that many of the things brides worried about before the wedding were not the same things they regretted after the wedding.
Our biggest advice to any bride is to not stress. It is an important day, but it isn’t a day that will define the rest of your life.
With that said here are some of the top things we found brides regretted after their wedding.
1. Hire the wrong wedding professionals – This was on pretty much every list we read, for obvious reasons. The wedding professionals you hire can make or break your day. If something is important to you DO NOT leave it up to chance. Make sure you hire a professional and make sure you understand what they are offering and what you are getting do not assume they will be providing something if it is not in your contract and do not expect them to provide something that isn’t in your contract. Finally, make sure you get references and see samples of their work. See our blog about hiring a pro vs a joe.
2. Go Over Budget or Not Having a Large Enough Budget - Nothing is more frustrating than spending more than you were planning to spend. Make sure to create a budget that you know is realistic. If you know your wedding budget is small that is totally fine, there are some wonderful options to having a fantastic wedding on a small budget. But do not go over budget. One of the great things about planning a wedding budget and then sticking to it is that it will help you in your future together as a couple to budget and plan all your expenses. There is nothing more frustrating in a marriage than dealing with and fighting over money. If you learn to budget and work together early you will be able to take that with you into your marriage.
3. Too Concerned About Being Trendy – It is your wedding, don’t worry about what the latest trends are. Go with what you want. Too many brides worry about having the latest and greatest or doing what is currently in or hip. Trends come and go but having the wedding that you want will stick with you. The last thing you want to do is look back at your photos or video and say to yourself, “Why did we do that?”
4. Doing it Alone – If you want to stress yourself to death plan your wedding alone. There are many people who would love to help you out. Moms, friends, family and of course the groom. If you find that you are still struggling to get everything done we would recommend hiring a planner. A planner is there to help keep you organized and can take a lot of the stress off of your shoulders. This person could easily become your best friend as the planning goes on.
5. Hiring Family or Friend (non professional) for Photography or other Wedding Service – Refer back to #1. So often we hear, “I wish I would have hired a professional to (take my pictures, cater my wedding, videotape my wedding, design my wedding etc etc etc.)” This can be one of the most frustrating and costly things. If something is important to you hire a professional, we can’t stress that enough.
6. Start Planning Too Late – We can’t tell you how many times we have seen brides get frustrated or upset because they began planning their wedding too late. Save yourself the stress by planning early. Here is some good information for you to take to heart. Popular dates are booked far in advance. The best professionals fill up quickly. If you are getting married on a popular date, 12-12-12 for example, and you don’t start planning until about two months before we can almost guarantee that the location you want will be gone, the photographer you want will be booked and the caterer you want won’t be available either. Remember these are professionals who are running a business, they are not waiting around for you to just come to them they are going to take the bride who contacts them and puts her deposits down first.
7. Skipping the Honeymoon – Personally I think this should be hire on our list. I think the honeymoon is one of the most important parts of the wedding. Why? because it is one of the few times that the two of you will have together. Most people who get married are either finishing up school, starting a career etc etc. and do not have much time afterwards to go on a honeymoon. Honeymoons don’t have to be expensive but we cannot stress enough how important they are for your marriage. See our blog about top honeymoon destinations.
8. Not Involve the Groom – After all it is his wedding too. Let him be as much a part of the planning as he would like to be. Give him some responsibilities too. While he may not act like he cares, more than likely he does.
9. Don’t Enjoy the Moment – We survey brides all the time and ask them what they would do differently, almost inevitably the response is that they wouldn’t stress so much and that they would make sure they enjoyed the day. Many say that they wish they would have spent more time greeting guests and talking with friends than stressing over if things are done in time or not. Ultimately the day will come together and things will work out. Let other people stress over your wedding (ie the professionals you hire) and you just enjoy the day.
10. Not Focus on the Big Picture… The Marriage - Weddings are a lot of fun, but they are not and should not be the pinnacle of your marriage or your life. Once you get past the wedding there are so many other things to focus on and enjoy. Life can become very stressful, there are so many things that can surprise you and there will be trials during your life. Spend time focusing on your marriage because ultimately that is what will matter the most.
We wish all you brides and grooms success with your wedding planning but we even more so wish you the best as you start your new lives together. Remember the wedding is just one day out of the rest of your life. Enjoy the day, make it a memorable one but make sure to not stress so much over the little things and focus on what matters most and that is your marriage.
Photo Courtesy of Swensen Photography