Today is Memorial Day, a federal holiday meant for remembering people who have died, especially those who have died serving in the country’s armed forces. To honor this holiday, most people visit cemeteries and memorials to visit and honor their loved ones that have passed away, while also spending time with those family and loved ones they still have on Earth to hold dear. In honor of this holiday, today’s blog post is all about ways in which to memorialize loved ones that have passed on at your wedding.
Nothing can compare to actually having all of your loved ones in attendance on your special wedding day. It is a joyous occasion and you may want to honor loved ones that are not able to be there to celebrate with you. By honoring deceased friends and relatives, it allows those loved ones to at least have some sort of presence at the celebration and allow others to feel a bit of their spirit.
There are many ways to include them in your nuptials from a subtle candle lit in honor of them to a more public display such as a toast. It is important to find a balance with it. Find an appropriate way to show remembrance for them, give them the respect and honor they deserve, but do not let it set an overpowering sad tone for your happy day. Here are 10 ideas that you could use to honor, remember, and memorialize your beloved one on your wedding day.
1. Set up a photo display, photo wall, collage, or memorial table, perhaps even with a special message or poem displayed as well.
2. Write their name or sew a picture of them somewhere on your clothes, shoes, or on a handkerchief you carry. Or carry a special note they wrote you or even sew it to or pin it to your dress or jacket.
3. Wear a locket or a charm bracelet with pictures of your loved one. Or attach charms with their picture to your bouquet or incorporate charms anywhere you choose.
4. Carry a family heirloom, or make an heirloom part of your traditional “something borrowed” or “something blue.” Or wear a piece of jewelry from a loved one.
5. Have guests make a charitable donation in honor of your loved one or you make a charitable donation in that person’s name in lieu of giving out wedding favors.
6. Reserve a seat for someone that could not be there because they have passed away and mark it with a single flower, a photograph of them, or one of their prized possessions.
7. Do a balloon or butterfly release in honor of each loved one lost at the end of the ceremony.
8. Another option is to light and release Japanese lanterns or Chinese lanterns.
8. Give guests Forget Me Not seeds to plant in honor of your loved one. Great idea for favors for your wedding.
9. You can raise your glass in toast to your loved one before the reception starts, or have toasting station or candle lighting station.
10. Have a moment of silence to remember them before your ceremony begins. You don’t need to have a church wedding to observe a moment of reflection.
To those of you who have lost someone dear, we send our deepest condolences for your loss and that empty spot left in your life. Hopefully at least one of these ideas is an idea that your could personalize and incorporate into your own wedding. Do you have a different idea? Did you do something else to include the memory and spirit of your loved one on your special day?
One last thought: when you do decide on a way you think is right to celebrate and memorialize your loved ones, just make sure first to check with those closest to them to be sure they will be okay with what you chose. This can be a very sensate subject and we want to catch anyone off guard on your wedding day.
Everyone enjoy your Memorial Day as you honor the death but celebrate the lives of your loved ones that have passed away. And also enjoy spending time with the ones you love. Make sure to hug them a little tighter today and make sure you know you love them!